The ways we love are shaped by more than love.
Individual therapy for dating, intimacy, sexual concerns, marital difficulties and the patterns that shape us.
Relationships can bring us into contact with some of the deepest parts of ourselves.
You may find yourself repeating patterns you understand but still cannot seem to change. You may become anxious when someone pulls away, lose yourself when you become attached, struggle to know what you want, or find yourself caught between longing for closeness and wanting to protect your independence.
Or you may be dating and wondering why connection feels so hard to find, carrying resentment in a relationship, struggling with boundaries or people-pleasing, or trying to understand why closeness brings up fear, uncertainty, or the urge to pull away.
Sometimes the work is about repairing or deepening an important relationship. And sometimes it opens into a deeper question: What happens inside me when I love, attach, choose, protect myself, or let another person close?
Working with the whole relationship
Relationship patterns rarely exist in isolation. How we attach, protect ourselves, give and receive care, express needs, respond to disappointment, and allow ourselves to depend on another person are shaped by many layers of experience.
In therapy, we may explore family-of-origin patterns, attachment, past relationships, trauma, sexuality, and protective strategies, while also paying attention to what happens in the present: what you notice in your body, what you long for, and what makes closeness, vulnerability, giving, or receiving difficult.
The goal is not simply to become more independent, have better boundaries, or ask for more. Sometimes growth means becoming more able to stay connected, to give, to tolerate another person’s needs, to repair after conflict, or to remain open when protecting yourself would feel easier. The work is about developing greater freedom and capacity in relationship: to love, choose, give, receive, speak, listen, and remain connected to yourself while being deeply connected to another person.
When intimacy and sexuality become complicated
Sexuality can touch some of the most vulnerable parts of our lives: our bodies, relationships, histories, identities, desires, fears, and sense of ourselves.
I work with women navigating differences in desire, difficulty with arousal, sexual pain, vaginismus, fear or anxiety around sex, shame, disconnection from the body, and the impact of past experiences or trauma. Sometimes the difficulty is clearly sexual; other times sexuality becomes a doorway into larger questions about safety, desire, closeness, autonomy, trust, or what it means to let another person close.
The goal is not simply to understand or accept what is happening, but to create the conditions for meaningful change. Together, we can become curious about what your body, desires, fears, and protective responses may be communicating while working toward greater capacity for intimacy, pleasure, safety, connection, and choice.
New ways of relating are possible.
Discover greater freedom, intimacy, and choice in how you love and relate.